ENFJ

Recently for my leadership class my amazing teacher had us take personality style quizzes, this was part of the Myers and Briggs personality type research. Overall, I got exactly what I thought I would get which is ENFJ the protagonist.

What this means is that I’m an extrovert, intuitive, feeler, and judger. This fits me perfectly but the two main things that I’m stuck on are feeler and extrovert.

For my whole life I have been a very outgoing person, I enjoy parties and group gatherings, I get energy from being around people. But lately this ideal that I have based my whole personality on, has been tested. I have to be alone now because of quarantine but the weird thing is, it’s not that big of an issue. I miss people and doing things of course, but the reason I even doubt that I’m an extrovert anymore is that I feel happier now that I am alone at home all the time.

I put a lot of thought into the idea of who I am and why I feel the way I feel and here’s what I discovered...

I am exactly what I got on the Myers Briggs test right now, but that may change in the future. What I have learned is that character can be fluid and what I identify with now can change in the future as I grow and learn in life, but overall these are my big personality traits. I was worried that I was no longer an extrovert because I felt ok and happy at home, but here is the real answer. I have matured and healed, part of growing up is learning to be ok by yourself. I am learning to love myself and because of it I no longer feel alone by myself, I no longer dread being alone. The other part I struggled with was that I was identified as a feeler, this meaning I used my heart to make decisions far more often then my head. In my life growing up, people who made decisions based on their feelings were often seen as irrational and ‘wishy washy’following my heart and listening to what my emotions mean, is not a bad thing. I don’t have to be ashamed of the fact that I feel what I feel, I can wear my heart on my sleeve and let people know my emotions. This is a way to get closer to people, to trust people, earn their trust, and just overall enjoy life.

I am exactly what I got on the Myers Briggs test right now, but that may change in the future. What I have learned is that character can be fluid and what I identify with now can change in the future as I grow and learn in life, but overall these are my big personality traits. I was worried that I was no longer an extrovert because I felt ok and happy at home, but here is the real answer. I have matured and healed, part of growing up is learning to be ok by yourself. I am learning to love myself and because of it I no longer feel alone by myself, I no longer dread being alone. The other part I struggled with was that I was identified as a feeler, this meaning I used my heart to make decisions far more often then my head. In my life growing up, people who made decisions based on their feelings were often seen as irrational and ‘wishy washy’. But me, following my heart and listening to what my emotions mean, is not a bad thing. I don’t have to be ashamed of the fact that I feel what I feel, I can wear my heart on my sleeve and let people know my emotions. This is a way to get closer to people, to trust people, earn their trust, and just overall enjoy life.

Even though personality quizzes, like the ones on buzzfeed can be cheesy, we can still always have room to learn about who we are.